Mar 12, 2020
Eddie Capparucci is a licensed therapist and certified in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He runs a private practice with his wife in Marietta, GA and works with men struggling with sex/porn addiction, as well as their wives who are dealing with betrayal. Eddie recently wrote the book, Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction and talks with Dr. Rob on how men can build their emotional IQ and reconnect emotionally with their families.
TAKEAWAYS:
[4:30] Eddie believed he was a broken and perverted person when he struggled with his own porn addiction.
[6:20] If you want to work on your addiction, you need to be able to sit with discomfort.
[9:45] When you’re by yourself after the wife and kids are gone, do you experience anxiety and discomfort?
[11:10] How does Seeking Integrity work with trauma?
[14:05] Eddie wants you to move away from shame or thinking that God hates you.
[15:10] Men, you don’t have to be absent in your family’s lives because you’ve worked long hours!
[16:40] A lot of men that walk into Eddie’s practice have a low emotional IQ.
[19:00] Despite living through a chaotic childhood, you don’t need to distance yourself from your current family.
[21:45] Men get a lot more satisfaction in their work lives than they do in their home lives and that might be because men don’t know how to seek satisfaction in their home lives.
[24:05] Your partners are asking you for memorable moments. Whatever is on the computer or TV is just not as important.
[25:15] What you’re about to do, is it good for the relationship?
[26:35] Eddie and Dr. Rob are not just talking about sex or porn addiction, they’re talking about all addiction.
[29:05] What’s wrong with watching porn? It’s not hurting anyone!
[32:50] Who should read Eddie’s book, Going Deeper?
RESOURCES:
The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’?
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Eddie Capparucci
Email: EdCappa@gmail.com
QUOTES:
- “We can’t sit with our emotional pain so we learned to distract and escape.”
- “Don’t just assume something you don’t like or doesn’t interest you, don’t assume that’s the way it is.”
- “Maybe there’s a part of you inside that’s longing to play with your family and longing to be loved and connected.”
- “It was like that in the past, but it doesn't mean it has to continue.”
- “We don’t necessarily know how to grow closer to others at home, so it’s kind of avoided.”