Jun 30, 2020
Key Takeaways:
- How
can someone strengthen their love connection during a
pandemic?
- The
more stress we bring into ourselves, the more that drains our
energy.
- The
good news is that you have the power to bring relaxation and calm
into your life and current/future partnerships.
- Before you bring up a topic, ask yourself a
couple of questions first. Do you want to vent? Do you just want to
share what you’re feeling? Do you need to solve a
problem?
- Think
about a conversation you’ve had with a friend in the past and, if
enjoyable, replicate that process again.
- Communication is a critical part of any
relationship. So, you need to be conscious of how you’d like to
show up.
- When
you’re creating positive energy for you and your partner, then you
can move forward and work towards your goals and
aspirations.
- Don’t
shout over to your partner if they’re not in the same room as you.
Walk over to them! Talk to them! Look them in the eye.
- Dr.
Sarah shares a couple of examples or conversation scripts you can
use to talk to your partner about your fears or concerns you might
be having about the world.
- The
tips Sarah is sharing today aren’t just for heterosexual couples
either. It’s for all relationships, romantic or
platonic!
- The
more care you take in setting up the conversation beforehand, the
calmer the other party will feel.
- What
advice does Dr. Sarah have for couples living under one roof and
having a lot of tension?
- It’s
hard to build connection or empathy when someone isn’t focused on
you.
- How
do you increase intimacy in a relationship?
- Imagine how many relationships can be saved
just by taking the time to listen, truly listening, and
acknowledging your partner.
Episode Summary:
Dr. Sarah understands that under
stress, we can end up doing and saying some pretty crazy or hurtful
things. Whether you’re in lockdown and isolation or all living
under one roof, Dr. Sarah offers helpful tips and reminders on how
you can connect with your partner in a relaxing and calm way. Yes,
we are all under a new heightened level of stress and we might have
things we want to get off our chest, but we can do that by coming
to a conversation prepared!
Guest Bio:
Sarah Rattray Ph.D., Couples
Psychologist, has spent the last thirty years helping couples
create the relationship they always wish they’d had. She
specializes in helping couples communicate safely about what really
matters to them, so they feel seen, heard, understood, and
supported. Right now she’s creating workshops to help you navigate
all the relationship challenges of this stressful time with grace
and kindness towards each other.
Resources for a Younger
Lifestyle:
Dr. Robyn Benson’s Free Youthful Aging eGuide
Biofieldhealinginstitute.com
Connect with Sarah:
Couplescommunicationinstitute.com
& Sarah’s free offer:
Take this QUICK FREE QUIZ to find out your Communication Resilience
score
Sarah’s Facebook support group
Dutchtest.com
Quotes:
“Every conversation, we tend to
arrive with tension that sets us up to be startled, to be
surprised, and to be even more on alert with each other, and that
drains our energy.”
“You have in your hands the
leadership ability to set the stage for yourself and your partner
for relaxation and calm.”
“Is this gaining you energy or
is it draining your energy?”
“If we can have a conversation
and you really listen to me, I’m going to feel more trusting with
you.”