Dec 23, 2020
Healing from a high-conflict divorce is one of the biggest challenges we can ever face. When our former partner has narcissistic capabilities, it feels like the wounds of that relationship are too deep and impossible to work through, but you can heal. You can come out of it with the tools that will attract the life you want.
Being in a high-conflict marriage reveals deep truths about ourselves. How we were treated and how we showed up is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves.
Often in the desire to be loved, we abandon ourselves by giving so much to an unworthy partner. The journey to self-healing requires us to dig into the root of those wounds to truly heal them. It’s a painful journey, but a very necessary one.
What are some of the challenges we experience in high conflict divorces? Why is a high-conflict divorce a powerful opportunity for us to heal our emotional wounds? What do these relationships teach us?
In this episode, Journey Beyond Divorce founder Karen McMahon shares the emotional and mental tools we can use to come out of our divorce with self-love and self-forgiveness.
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What our marriages teach us about our inner state:
A difficult, high conflict marriage is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. When we’re wounded and yearn so much to be loved in place of our own self-love, we end up with a partner who pours more into that wound. Once we accept that love is an inside job, we’ll end the pattern of seeking love externally.
The danger of trying to fast-forward through the pain of divorce:
It’s natural to want to skip over the emotional discomfort of divorce, but there are powerful and pivotal lessons we can learn from pain. If we were to fast-forward, we would be the same person we were in that relationship and attract the same type of relationship again. If we go through the pain and grow from it, we get to change emotionally and energetically, and we’ll never attract the same type of high-conflict relationship again.
How to turn emotional triggers into lessons:
We’ve been taught to blame our pain and dysfunction on an external circumstance or person, but the answers and the healing are within us. An emotional trigger shows us we have something that needs to be healed or refined about us. Emotional triggers can help us look inward and get clear on the root of the pain. If we’re willing to look inward, we’ll be able to find solutions instead of remaining stuck on the problems.
Karen’s passion is to help men and women navigate the emotional difficulties of relationships, breakups, and divorce. Her work helps to open up the possibility that your current relationship challenges can lead to a rewarding voyage of self-discovery and an immensely more pleasing life experience. Karen founded Journey Beyond Divorce in 2010 after discovering that the pain of dissolving her marriage had been the very stimulus for her personal transformation. For more information, visit https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/.
To get Karen’s Divorce Survival Kit visit https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/divorce-recovery-plan.