Jul 6, 2021
If you are contemplating going
for divorce or currently going through the process, who are the
right players that you need to assemble and have on your side? In
this episode, Top Lawyer in Family Law, Matrimonial, Arbitration,
and Mediation, Eric Broder joins us to share valuable inputs on
where to start and identify who and when to get certain
professionals involved in the process — whether that be before, during, and after your
divorce.
Key points in this episode:
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Eric posits that early on, it is necessary to get a
therapist or a divorced coach, "we are not as qualified as a therapist who
can get to know you in an entirely different manner and be with you
when the case is over." Lawyers most often can focus on the legal
side and are not fully qualified to assist you in dealing with the
emotional and psychological aspects.
✔️ Be
careful who you listen to. Friends and people close to you should be
supportive and encouraging during the process. However, should your
friends tell you about their case, or the people they know may
confuse you. Remember, every case is different, and you must focus
more on yours and talk to the professionals.
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Remember that while a divorce is personal, it is also a
business transaction. Eric
shares that clients who had their cases move the fastest are the
ones that decide rationally and treat it like a business
transaction. "In 80 -90% of our cases, people figure out what to do
with their kids and don't have many issues."
✔️You
may need a real estate appraiser to come in. Many states don't recognize what a real
estate broker values a house; if you cannot agree on the value of a
house with your spouse, you may need a certified real estate
appraiser.
✔️ Seek
the guidance of parenting coordinators. They can be your fallback and prevent everyone
from going to court and resolving new issues. It's much more
expensive to go to court and pay your lawyers than it is to see an
excellent therapist or social worker.
✔️ Other
experts you may have to bring in are a business evaluator, a
forensic accountant, a financial planner, and trust and estate
lawyer in the three stages
of the divorce process. They will help you make sound decisions and
save you from spending higher costs in the future.
Connect with Eric Broder:
Eric Broder is a co-founding member and partner at Broder
Orland Murray & DeMattie LLC.
He is an AV Preeminent
rated attorney by Martindale Hubbell®, the highest possible rating
in both legal ability and ethical standards, earned through a
strenuous peer and judicial review procedure.
He has also been
designated a "Top Lawyer" in Family Law, Matrimonial, Arbitration,
and Mediation in Westport, Greenwich, New Canaan/Darien, and
Fairfield Magazines.
Eric has been selected
as a Connecticut Super Lawyers® in Family Law each year from 2013
to 2020. Each year no more than 5% of the lawyers in the state are
selected to receive this honor.
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