Aug 3, 2021
For so many of us who went
through a divorce, love is something that we dream of finding
again. In this episode, Dr. Holly Battey, a dating expert,
matchmaker, and coach, reminds us that, after all, love is still in
the cards.
Tune in as we talk
about what it means to balance being selective and not being
selective enough with your next relationship, what to look for and
how to vet a potential soulmate, and how your future can be very
different from your past.
Key points in this episode:
✔️ To
manifest a soulmate, you have to be your radiant best
self. Finding new love
requires that you have entirely accepted yourself and are willing
and ready to show up differently this time. Regardless of who else
is in your life or not, how you feel about yourself matters more
than anything else.
✔️
Divorce was not a failed relationship when you learned the
lesson. The experience can
be painful and devastating, but looking at what worked and what
didn't work in your significant relationships allows you to become
better moving forward.
✔️ A
scarcity mentality tells you to take the next best man instead of
the RIGHT man. So many
have experienced dating "Mr. Right Now" as opposed to "Mr. Right."
And for men, there's "Ms. Right Now" instead of "Ms.
Right."
✔️ The
number one reason that you can't find your soulmate is that you
settle. So if you truly
want a long-term relationship or marriage, don't choose someone who
isn't a good fit; know what to look for and be intentional about
it. Know the balance between being too selective & not selective
enough. You have far more power than you know in dating.
✔️ Be
willing to teach men how to treat you. It doesn't have to be as complicated if you
start communicating what you want and need. Men are not
mind-readers, but they care. Hence, you must learn how to speak
your mind and speak it authentically. Does your partner show up
differently, or does he keep doing the same thing? Doing your part
will leave you no regrets whether he'll rise to the occasion or
not.
✔️When
do you know that your love is right? When your heart, your head,
and your gut are all aligned. You will come to terms that you will feel the
way that you want to feel. So many people ignore how they're truly
feeling out of fear of rejection or fear of not being what they
want instead of setting the bar higher. So paying attention to that
is vital.
Connect with Holly Battey:
Dr. Holly Battey has a doctorate in clinical psychology and is
hailed as a dating expert, matchmaker, coach, and image consultant
for over 8 years.
She founded Find Love
At Last in 2014 to help women and men find lasting love. An
inspiring speaker, she empowers, advises, and speaks on image,
strategy, online dating, partner suitability, communication, and
commitment.
With a successful
career in executive search, she helps sincere, kind-hearted,
conscious single clients find the love of their dreams.
Website: www.findloveatlast.com
Connect with Wendy Sterling:
Website:
https://wendysterling.net/
Instagram:
@divorcerehabwithwendy
Twitter: @thedivorcerehab
Facebook: @wendytsterling
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