Ep. 40 - More Sex or More Intimacy?

Jun 27, 2022

Let's talk about Libido... in particular, how do we overcome libido discrepancy? (i.e.: when one partner wants more sex than the other.) While we are at it, let's take it a step further and throw parenting, life, and a little kink into the mix! In this episode, I'm going to address an insightful question from a follower concerning how to talk to their partner about the tough subject of getting more sex when one partner isn't feeling it. I also take you on a deep dive into a conflict resolution technique called "The Imago Dialogue" (and how it can be used as check-in method for D/s dynamics), how this fits in with creating more responsive desire, as well as teach you how to find what your inner self actually needs from sex. I'll also give actionable steps to reframe what pleasure is, and build a container of safety that will help partners connect on a deeper level, even when sex isn't on the menu! Let's get going!

 

Links for this episode:

Video Podcast Version 

Dr. K's Imago-Inspired D/s Relationship Dialogue Script will be available on Patreon and her Online Center for Sexuality & Kink Education

Book: Come as You Are by Dr. Emily Nagowski

Book: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Book: Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris

Book: Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz

Book: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Helen LaKelly Hunt  (Great info on the Imago Dialogue)

Site: The Imago Relationship Official Site

 

Additional Resources:

Site: TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance)

Site: TASHRA's Research

Site: The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality

Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover

Dr. K's Official Website

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Twitch with me! LIVE 

Digital Magazine - Intellectual Intoxication - Dr. K's Gallery Musings & Gallery 

Dr. K's  Kink-Affirming Holistic Coaching Practice

Additional Resources:

Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) 

About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health.

Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech

Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover

 

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