Dec 14, 2022
One of my new favorite books Wife On Purpose ~ A great marriage how-to handbook by Candice Toone that I highly recommend.
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I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #46: Wife on
Purpose
I recently finished a Trauma-Informed Coach
Certification with Candice
Toone. I have always admired Candice and her incredible
coaching. Working closely with her has taken my coaching to a whole
new level and I'll forever be grateful.
I also discovered she wrote a book called Wife
on Purpose, and I just finished reading it. What a fantastic
book. If you're wondering how to be more intentional as a wife, to
get what you truly desire, and to improve your relationship with
your spouse, no matter what situation you're in, I highly recommend
reading this book.
I like to highlight main points in books I'm reading for later
reference. There is so much in here that I highlighted, I had to
stop, it's one of my most yellow books.
Anyway, Candice helps women stop wondering if they married the
wrong guy, and start building the marriage they thought they'd had
when they said, "I do." Even if you're sure that you married
the right guy, this book has tools that will help everyone.
Candice has so many fun and relatable analogies. One of my very
favorites was this one. Candice shares that when something in your
marriage seems to need fixing, and you're believing that the
problem shouldn't be happening at all, you often feel some version
of fear. To illustrate this, she talks about a baby
teething...
Teething hurts. The baby cries. No one responds with, "oh no.
How could this happen? We gotta make it stop." If we did respond
that way, we would have a terrifying first couple years of the
child's life. Most of us expect the pain of teething as part of
human development, so we keep our sense of control and don't
normally freak out when we see our baby swollen gums.
We may question the teething process, but we don't normally go on a
wild defensive crusade to make teething stop all together. We know
it's coming, and we get ready to ease the baby suffering with cold
chewy things, medicine and snuggles.
Because we accept that teething is supposed to happen, we spend
very little time trying to prevent it or change it. We anticipate
it, stock up on comfort tools, and love on our littles through it
all.
We don't blame ourselves or the baby because teething isn't our
favorite thing. Instead, we take responsibility for handling
teething like a pro. Candice shares, that it is our option to view
the challenges of married life through the same lens we use for
teething.
If marital scuffles were openly acknowledged to be as
non-threatening as teething, it's likely that we'd move through
them more easily, and feel more curious and confident as we go.
We'd spend very little time trying to prevent or change them.
We'd anticipate them, stock up on comfort tools, and love ourselves
through it all. So good. Thank you, Candice!
Now, if you're wondering how in the world do I love myself when my
relationship with a spouse, or my daughter-in-law, or someone close
to me is a mess? This is what I do in my Lovin Me Program. I help
you increase the love you feel for yourself, which strengthens your
relationship with everyone else.
One of my favorite quotes from Candice's incredible book, Wife
on Purpose is this: "You always have a good reason for
everything you think, feel and do. Take responsibility for figuring
out what your reasons are, then follow those reasons with courage
and conviction." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to being a wife on purpose and
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