Aug 18, 2026
A date night conversation about Dr. Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages got Adam Koós thinking about something he sees every day across more than 300 client families: everyone relates to money a little differently. In this solo episode of The Retirement Fiduciary, Adam borrows the love languages idea and applies it to money, walking through the five “money love languages” that shape how people save, invest, and feel about their financial lives.
From the family steward who cares most about protecting the people they love, to the accumulator focused on growth, Adam explains why knowing your own money personality is the first step toward becoming a calmer, more consistent investor. He also digs into the emotional pitfalls of fear and greed, why risk tolerance shifts over time, and the single biggest reason good retirement plans fall apart.
Episode Timestamps
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00:00 - Why your “money love language” matters
03:00 - A quick primer on the five love languages
05:00 - The five money love languages (starting with the family steward)
10:00 - The less common types (and who probably isn’t a fit)
13:00 - Fear, greed, and neither
17:00 - Your risk “speed limit”
20:00 - The real reason plans fail (and the GPS analogy)
Key Takeaways
💡 Before you can be a calm, consistent investor, you have to understand who you are and how you react to risk.
💡 Most people are “family stewards.” Their planning is really about protecting the people they love.
💡 Investors tend to get cautious right when markets fall and bold right when they climb, which is backwards.
💡 Risk tolerance is not fixed. It shifts with life events and market conditions, and it usually drops after a scare.
💡 Plans rarely fail because of the market. They fail because people abandon them during short-term volatility.
Key Quotes
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🗣 “Investors are conservative when the market’s going down and aggressive when it’s going up.”
🗣 “If investing is exciting, you’re probably not doing it well.”
🗣 “The number one reason financial plans fail is that people abandon their plan.”
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