May 29, 2023
Dopamine is our primary source of motivation. It triggers us to move our ass towards whatever we think we want.
The more you use external crutches to boost your dopamine, the less able your brain is to produce it naturally.
You don’t have to be a raging coke-head for this to apply. If you rely on any combination of...
May 22, 2023
Guilt is a feeling, not a fact. Feeling “bad” about taking care of yourself is an imaginary obstacle. In reality, your needs are just as important as everyone else’s.
If that sounds radical, this episode is for you.
For five years, I’ve been telling myself that I can’t go for a bike ride because my dog...
May 15, 2023
Divorce is traumatizing. But the story you tell yourself about your ex-partner can do far more damage--to you--than the actual events.
Long-term suffering is self-inflicted. Clinging to a painful story prevents us from moving forward and experiencing joy. Our bodies–our nervous systems–are retraumatized each time...
May 8, 2023
You know that sinking feeling when you’re staying sober or eating clean or making it to the gym–and you suddenly realize it’s not going to last?
I hate that feeling. Luckily, it's a feeling, not a fact.
Sustaining a new habit does not require a robot-like ability to resist temptation. Or massive amounts of grit...
May 1, 2023
Shame is a big motivator for high-functioning drinkers and perfectionists. Feeling like you have to prove yourself, or earn the right to relax, comes from the belief that you are not worthy as you are. You have to DO better to BE good enough.
When you stop drinking, a large chunk of shame goes away. Because you no...