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It's Not About the Alcohol

Jul 31, 2023

Our sense of safety as children was dependent on our caregivers. We needed to make the adults around us happy. We let our parents tell us what to think and how to feel. Because that kept us safe.

 

And so, we learned how to regulate their nervous system instead of our own.

 

For many of us, childhood traumas manifest...


Jul 24, 2023

If you struggle with anxiety and depression, or are trying to escape the alcohol trap, you are well aware that life would be better if you were nicer to yourself. 

 

But what does that really mean? And HOW do you like yourself if you don’t actually like yourself?

 

In this episode, I’ll start with the big picture....


Jul 17, 2023

After years of living in denial, it’s normal to have a regret hangover in early sobriety. 

 

Just saying “I’m sober” can feel shameful. Because you’re admitting that drinking was a problem. And while it’s important to move forward, you still have to make peace with the past.

 

Unprocessed regret keeps you...


Jul 10, 2023

Personal power is when you stop placing conditions on when you will and won’t be okay. 

 

Okayness is a feeling, not a fact. It’s a story you’re telling yourself. 

 

Your brain has created a set of conditions and is holding your nervous system hostage. If life fails to meet your expectations, your body is thrown...


Jul 3, 2023

Emotional sobriety requires prioritizing self care. You don’t need permission or approval to set boundaries with your body. 

 

But that feels complicated when applied to sex. Women have been conditioned to “service” our partners on a regular basis, whether we feel like it or not. If you don’t keep your man...