Mar 20, 2025
In today’s episode, Colleen shares a powerful perspective shift that can change everything about how you experience drinking—without focusing on drinking at all. Instead of obsessing over how much you drink, the real work is learning how to respond to yourself after you drink.
She walks through a personal
experience of having a hangover without guilt, shame, or
frustration—just curiosity, self-care, and a deep understanding of
what led to the decision in the first place. This episode will help
you in your journey to break free from the belief that
drinking is the problem and show you why emotional
inflammation—shame, guilt, and self-judgment—is what actually keeps
you stuck.
Key Takeaways:
The Real Cause of Alcohol Use Disorder (It’s Not the Alcohol)
- The root issue isn’t how much you drink—it’s how you think about your drinking.
- The cycle of overdrinking is fueled by guilt, stress, and the belief that you should be doing better.
- Alcohol use disorder is 90% a thinking problem and only 10% a drinking problem.
Why Self-Judgment Keeps You Stuck
- The perception that you failed after drinking too much triggers stress and hopelessness.
- The more you believe drinking is a problem, the more your brain craves a way to escape that stress.
- The key to breaking the cycle isn’t drinking less—it’s removing the emotional charge from your drinking.
How to Have a Hangover Without the Emotional Drama
- The way you treat yourself after a setback determines what happens next.
- Self-compassion leads to curiosity and learning, which makes future change easier.
- The most powerful shift is
learning to accept
yourself, no matter what.
Actionable Steps to Shift Your Mindset About Drinking:
1. Separate Your Drinking from Your Self-Worth
- Instead of asking,
“Why did I do this
again?” ask:
“What was going on before I made this decision?” - Drop the judgment—just gather data and learn from it.
2. Reframe How You Think About Overdrinking
- Overdrinking isn’t a failure—it’s information.
- You don’t need to promise yourself you’ll “never do this again.”
- What if nothing has gone wrong? What if this is part of the process?
3. Take Care of Yourself Without Punishment
- Instead of beating yourself
up, create a self-care plan for the next morning:
✅ Drink water, eat nourishing food, and get some fresh air.
✅ Move slowly and give yourself space to rest.
✅ Remind yourself: “I am learning. I am growing. I am okay.”
Homework:
The next time you wake up
feeling regret about drinking, pause and ask:
✔ “What if nothing has gone wrong?”
✔ “What would it feel like to be kind to myself right
now?”
✔ “How can I take care of myself today—without punishing
myself?”
Because the truth is, it’s not your drinking that needs to change—it’s your relationship with yourself.
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commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally
sober (side effects include an 80 percent reduction in
drinking),You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding
of how to get the skills you need to transform your life.
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