Jan 23, 2024
In this week’s episode, I am joined by Andrew Reiner!
Andrew is the author of “Better Boys, Better Men: The New Masculinity That Creates Greater Courage and Emotional Resiliency”
He is also a professor at Towson University, where he offers the seminar “The Changing Face of Masculinity.”
He has written on masculinity and men’s issues for the New York Times, Italy’s La Repubblica, and The Washington Post Magazine.
His work has been featured on NPR and the Canadian Broadcasting Company, as well as in The Guardian, Men’s Health magazine, and Forbes.
He speaks about masculinity regularly at schools and conferences around the world.
Key Points
• Exploring masculinity and change
• The importance of fathers in growth
• Gender roles and partnership equality
• Embracing authentic emotional needs
• Legacy and raising resilient boys
Best Quotes
05:04 - 05:21
• "So for me, that represented an awareness, a growing awareness of so many different forms of this kind of masculinity that was being imposed on us, not just by the adults, but by each other as boys that I just grew to hate."
07:22 - 07:29
• "I decided at that moment, I didn't know
why, but I was not gonna hide the tears. I was not gonna, not only
was I not gonna hide them, but I wasn't gonna wipe them away."
11:15 - 11:24
• "And so one of the challenges with changing the terms when it comes to masculinity are how it's received by absolutely their partners and women."
32:28 - 32:48
• "That's exactly right. Exactly. And, and I think that this is the kind of conversation you and I are having right now around fatherhood is, is a, something a lot of men could sorely benefit from, is having these kinds of very real, you know, very honest conversations about, about, you know, what it means to be a father."
35:17 - 35:30
• "Who do you turn to when you really want to open up emotionally? Typically, you know, typically there'll be of maybe 15 students in the class, you know, one or two of them will have, you know, maybe a father who says, I don't really go to anybody."
51:02 - 51:14
• "Men also need to learn that it is not unmanly and, and you're not falling short as a man, if you have needs, deeper needs, that you are also working hard to get them met as well."
For more about Andrew visit:
www.andrewreinerauthor.com