Aug 4, 2026
In this episode, I sit down with Ayelet Fishbach, author of Get It Done, to talk about motivation, discipline, patience, goals, and why so many people struggle to follow through on the things they say matter most.
Ayelet challenges the idea that motivation is something you either have or you do not have. Instead, she explains that motivation is knowledge. It is something we can learn, practice, and build over time.
We talk about why wanting something is not enough, how to connect multiple goals in your life, and why so many people are successful in one area but feel completely out of alignment in another. Ayelet also breaks down the “difficult middle” — that frustrating place where the excitement of starting has faded, the finish line still feels far away, and every action feels like a drop in the bucket.
Our conversation also explores patience, self-control, resilience, New Year’s resolutions, travel routines, setbacks, and why the way we frame change can determine whether we feel afraid or excited.
About the Guest
Ayelet Fishbach is a motivation scientist and author of Get It Done.
Her work focuses on how people set goals, sustain motivation, monitor progress, navigate setbacks, and follow through on the things that matter to them.
In this conversation, Ayelet brings a research-based perspective to motivation and self-control, showing that success is not just about willpower. It is about understanding how goals work, how situations shape behavior, and how we can build systems that help us stay consistent.
She helps explain why motivation is not magic. It is a skill we can develop through awareness, practice, structure, and the right strategies.
Key Takeaways
→ Why motivation is not something you either have or do not have
→ Why motivation is knowledge — and something you can learn and practice
→ What people misunderstand about willpower and the marshmallow test
→ Why wanting something is not enough to sustain motivation
→ How discipline and commitment are shaped by what we believe is worth doing
→ Why people can be highly motivated at work but struggle with health, relationships, or family goals
→ How to identify what goals should stay on your plate and what may need to be set aside
→ Why some goals are actually temptations in disguise
→ How to find harmony between goals that seem like they compete for time
→ Why health, sleep, family, and success are often more connected than we realize
→ What happens during the “difficult middle” of any long-term goal
→ Why shortening the middle can help people stay motivated
→ How daily, weekly, monthly, or yearly goals can make big goals feel more achievable
→ Why tracking progress differently matters depending on where you are in the goal
→ When to look back at how far you have come and when to look forward at what is left
→ Why patience becomes easier as we age and gain more self-control
→ How enjoying the present helps us stay patient for future rewards
→ Why people stick with goals more when the process itself is satisfying
→ Why grace matters when life disrupts your routines
→ How travel, environment, and situational cues can throw off even strong habits
→ Why anticipating difficulty in advance helps you respond better when challenges come
→ How the planning fallacy causes people to assume everything will go according to plan
→ Why setbacks should teach us to adjust, not quit
→ How reframing change can turn fear into curiosity and excitement
Closing Thoughts
This conversation with Ayelet reminded me that motivation is not just about being fired up at the beginning.
The real test is what happens in the middle.
The middle of a goal.
The middle of a career.
The middle of a season.
The middle of a hard chapter in life.
That is where most people lose energy, lose clarity, and start to wonder if what they are doing is even working.
But Ayelet’s message is powerful because it shows that motivation is not random. It can be studied, understood, practiced, and improved.
We can shorten the middle.
We can track progress better.
We can connect our goals.
We can anticipate obstacles.
We can give ourselves grace when things go off track.
And we can learn to enjoy the process instead of only chasing the
outcome.
The goal is not to live a life where everything goes exactly according to plan.
That would be boring.
The goal is to build the patience, awareness, and resilience to keep moving forward when life does what life always does — changes.