We’ve all done it.
Started strong. Felt focused. Made a plan.
And then… disappeared on ourselves.
We check out. Drift. Ghost our own goals.
Not because we don’t care.
Not because we’re lazy.
But because somewhere along the way, doing the work stopped feeling desirable.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the real reasons we stop showing up—and how to finally change the pattern.
Because this isn’t just about missing a few days. It’s about rebuilding trust with yourself and learning how to stay—especially when it’s hard.
Why your mindset and your strategy both shape your consistency
The subtle beliefs that make not showing up feel easier
How “eating your emotions” and “self-sabotage” are keeping you vague and stuck
Why you need to practice disappointment (yes, really)
What overstimulation is doing to your focus—and how to reset it
Why showing up at 2% effort still counts (sometimes, it counts more)
You’ll also hear how I use these same principles in my own life—and how we apply them inside The Consistency Course to help people finally stop ghosting their goals.
This is one of those episodes you might want to listen to twice—because we’re not just talking about how to show up today. We’re talking about how to stop disappearing for good.
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Is AI your new accountability partner… or just another shiny distraction?
In this episode, I’m sharing a real, nuanced conversation about the rise of AI tools—how they can support your goals, where they fall short, and why none of it matters if you’re still skipping the root work.
I use AI. I love it. It’s smart, fast, and powerful. But I’m seeing more and more people treat it like a replacement for coaching, for community, for consistency—and that’s where things get dangerous.
🔑 We talk about:
What AI can help you with (meal plans, workouts, motivation…)
Where it completely fails you (especially on your hard days)
Why self-awareness still beats strategy every time
The truth about “on/off” behavior loops and how AI can make them worse
A story about a client who had all the tools—and was still stuck
Because here’s the truth:
You don’t need more information.
You need to become the person who actually follows through.
🧠 This episode will help you:
Use AI without outsourcing your self-leadership
Spot the patterns that keep you stuck (and call them out)
Finally understand why your problem isn’t about the plan—it’s about the practice
🎯 And if you’re tired of ghosting your goals and calling it “life happens”…
This is exactly why I created The Consistency Course. It’s time to stop starting over. Let’s build the skill together.
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Let’s talk about something a lot of people get wrong.
Grace is not the same thing as giving yourself a pass. It’s not pretending the slip didn’t happen, and it’s not code for “oh well, I’ll try again tomorrow.”
In this episode, we’re breaking down the critical difference between giving yourself grace and letting yourself off the hook — and why that distinction might be the key to finally building the consistency you’ve been chasing.
I’m sharing personal stories, powerful mindset shifts, and a simple way to move forward when things don’t go as planned — without spiraling, shaming, or slipping into all-or-nothing thinking.
A practical definition of real grace (and what it’s not)
How to respond to missed goals without making them mean something about you
A 3-step process to recalibrate and move forward with purpose
How to know when you're actually letting yourself off the hook
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We’ve all been there — an emotion hits hard, and before we even realize it, we’ve abandoned our plan, quit on the day, or convinced ourselves that we’re off track.
But what if there’s another way?
In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between emotional spiral and emotional sobriety — and how emotional leadership is the missing link for so many people struggling with inconsistency. You’ll hear real-life examples, practical reflection questions, and simple steps to start shifting your patterns right now.
If you’re ready to stop following your feelings and start leading yourself through them, this one’s for you.
Why emotional spirals feel true (but usually aren’t)
Real examples of what emotional sobriety looks like in everyday life
How to stop letting your feelings be your decision-making criteria
A step-by-step breakdown to get your emotions out of the driver’s seat
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We all have moments where everything feels hard—parenting, food choices, work, motivation. But what if the real problem isn’t the hard?
What if it’s the headline we keep writing about it?
In this episode, we’re talking about how your internal headlines, orientation, and daily anchors shape your progress—or your struggle.
Because it’s not just about effort. It’s about direction.
And if you’re not tethered to the right things, you will drift.
Why “this is hard” might be the most disempowering headline you can carry
How to reorient yourself toward the person you want to become (instead of defaulting to the person you’ve practiced being)
The powerful metaphor of the barn rope in a snowstorm—and why you need a tether too
How to rewrite your mental headlines to pursue results, not relief
If you always lead with “this sucks” or “this is hard,” you’re subconsciously anchoring yourself to the need for relief. That’s why you check out, scroll, snack, or quit. But hard doesn’t have to define your day—or your identity.
Most of us aren’t stuck—we’re just disoriented. We say we want change but keep facing the direction of comfort, distraction, or fear. Progress starts with a pivot. Reorientation is a practice—not a one-time fix.
Life is a blizzard. Without an intentional tether, you’ll get lost. Whether it’s a weekly check-in, a journaling habit, or a goal review—you need something to hold onto when you’re steps away from quitting.
“When hard is the headline, we start subconsciously looking for relief instead of results.”
“You don’t need to try harder. You need to reorient.”
“The tether keeps you from drifting when the storm rolls in.”
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What’s your current headline? Are you oriented toward possibility, or stuck staring at the past?
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Ever notice how your hardest decisions—like skipping a workout or reaching for junk food—usually happen when you're tired, stressed, or just done?
In today’s episode, I’m sharing a simple but game-changing tool I use in those moments:
The 3-Minute Rule.
This isn't about forcing willpower or waiting to "feel like it." It's about giving yourself three intentional minutes to shift where you're making the decision from—so you can choose with clarity, not chaos.
Join The Consistency Course – If you want to practice tools like this alongside coaching, community, and structure, TCC is for you.
In Today's Episode You’ll hear:
Why decisions made at your lowest emotional point often sabotage your goals
What it means to “get to higher ground” and how to do it fast
Real-life examples from my own week (yes, including kids, cookies, and chaos)
How this ties into the advice Olympic gymnast Nastia Liukin got from her coach: “Never quit on a bad day”
Whether it's a glass of water, a few deep breaths, or 3 minutes in the sun—this practice is a game-changer for anyone working toward consistency, self-trust, and lasting change.
What “higher ground” means in real life (and how to reach it fast)
A proven way to disrupt emotional spirals without relying on motivation
How this simple pause builds discipline faster than pressure ever will
Join The Consistency Course – If you want to practice tools like this alongside coaching, community, and structure, TCC is for you.
“You don’t need to make the perfect choice. You just need to get to higher ground.”
“You don’t quit on a bad day. You don’t decide from your lowest ground.”
“Motivation might come and go, but this 3-minute rule is available to you every single day.”
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4 Questions to Ask Before You Give Up (Again)
A guide to breaking your pattern and finally moving forward
There are millions of people silently drowning in overwhelm, stuck in patterns they desperately want to break — and yet, they keep turning down the life rafts being thrown their way.
They say things like:
“I start but never finish.”
“I know what to do, I just don’t do it.”
“I’ve already invested so much and nothing works.”
These beliefs feel like truth, but they’re actually traps.
In this episode, I’m holding up a mirror — not to call you out, but to call you up.
If you’re tired of striving but never arriving, this episode will walk you through:
✔ Stop using the past as a reason to quit the future
✔ Catch yourself when you're turning down help
✔ Challenge the “I always give up” identity
✔ Take one aligned step — even when it’s uncomfortable
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“You're not afraid of wasting money. You're afraid of wasting hope.”
“You’re not doomed to repeat your past — you’re just putting too much stock in it.”
“If success was guaranteed… would you still hesitate?”
“Stop calling yourself out. Start calling yourself up.”
“Sometimes the loudest story isn’t the truest story — it’s just the one you’ve repeated the most.”
🎧 If this episode hit home, share it with a friend. Let’s stop giving power to our patterns — and start walking in possibility.
This isn’t another how-to episode.
It’s not a checklist.
It’s a letter — from my heart to yours — for the woman who’s tired of starting over, but still hasn’t given up.
If you feel like you’re already halfway out the door… if you doubt it’ll work because it hasn’t worked before… this one’s for you.
In this episode, we unpack:
This one’s personal — and it just might change everything.
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From Stuck to Unstoppable — and I would love to see you there.