Aug 16, 2019
In this episode, Devi chats with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler about “How Relationships Impact Your Business and Your Life.” As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker, and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help.
Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of the difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®.
Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. She is the host of three podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals, and Focus on Forward: Fuel for a Fearless Future. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp.com has reached over 200,000 views.
Devi and Dr Rhoberta discuss:
- Dr Rhoberta’s experiences as a relationship coach
- The definition of a “Hijackal”
- The characteristics of a “Hijackal”
- Marriage as a "union of two souls for the perfection of the both"
- When to stop working on yourself
- The benefits of shifting and working on yourself, when you are in a relationship
- The unbalanced relationship
- Three things that help to develop a positive relationship
- The importance of equality in a relationship
- Expanding the equality in a relationship
- Mutuality in a relationship
- Creating oneness in a relationship
- Knowing when it’s time to step away from a “Hijackal” relationship
- Hallmarks of “Hijackals”
- Seeing the patterns and cycles in a “Hijackal” relationship
- Getting some help in withdrawing from a “Hijackal” relationship
- Having a healthy exit from a relationship
- Sustaining strong boundaries
- Acknowledging that you deserve space and progress
- Stating what you prefer in a relationship, rather than blaming
- Listening to other people’s feelings and not "fixing" them
- Documenting everything when there is physical violence
- Not rationalizing and justifying bad behavior
- The fine line between a giver and seeing a person who doesn’t have mutuality in mind
- Believing that you matter
and more…
Learn more about Dr Rhobera:
- Connect with her on her website @ www.forrelationshiphelp.com
- Youtube: For Relationship Help
- Podcast: Emotional Savvy
- Book: “How to Spot a Hijackal”