Apr 21, 2022
Dr. Rob continues his discussion with Dr. Eddie Capparucciis, the creator of the unique Inner Child Model for the treatment of Problematic Sexual Behaviors, to talk about common blind spots someone in recovery might have. When addicts are in their addiction, they can exhibit strong narcissistic tendencies, which can make it difficult to connect with others and see their perspectives.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:45] Addicts have a hard time seeing their own blindspots. What should they be aware of?
[2:40] Curiosity of people is an important way to connect with others. Addicts can lack this curiosity.
[3:35] Addicts can be hypersensitive to rejection and criticism.
[5:00] People learn how to love from their caregivers.
[6:20] In a lot of ways, addicts have been emotionally neglected.
[8:50] In recovery, we have the opportunity to break the cycle.
[10:20] You break the cycle by being emotionally present.
[12:45] Emotionally unavailable people tend to be ‘do-ers’, they try to fix the problem by finding a solution, instead of being present with their emotions.
[16:10] As long as you’re oblivious to the pain you’ve been through, you will also be oblivious to the pain you’re causing others.
[18:35] How do you work through your issues if you can’t afford therapy?
[21:40] Dr. Eddie talks about the current work and programs he’s a part of to help others.
[24:15] Don’t have the financial resources to go to therapy? Dr. Eddie can help.
RESOURCES:
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
QUOTES:
- “Anyone who has struggled with addiction has some strong narcissistic tendencies.”
- “Your kids are watching everything. Whether they’re 4 or 14. That’s one of the ways we don’t get an understanding of what we need.”
- “It’s never too late to start making changes.”
- “Even in the most troubled families, they are oblivious, even if they don’t mean to be.”