Jul 20, 2021
More often than not, when people
hear the word "litigation," they think of battle, war, or fighting.
In this episode, I share the screen with divorce and family law
attorney Evan Schein sharing his insights about the stigma around
divorce litigation and how it isn't the horror stories we all read
about and see on TV.
Understand why often
litigation becomes necessary and how so many cases would not have
settled if a judge or the court personnel wouldn't have been
involved. Learn the bright sides that aren't spoken about enough,
how litigation becomes necessary, and possibly have a peaceful
outcome.
Key points in this episode:
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Reframe your mind from associating litigation being
knock-down, drag-out divorce portrayed in the news or
movies. Evan reminds us
that it's absolutely not often the case. Litigation for many people
brings structure, clarity, and accountability to a divorce process
since dates and deadlines are established. A judge oversees the
process, and many times, litigation often helps quickly accomplish
cases settled either on the courthouse steps or in the middle of a
first proceeding or shortly after that.
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Consider the judge as a partner in coming up with a fair
resolution. The judge
spends time and effort working with you, your counsel, and the
opposing side in every case to help settle what wouldn't be reached
if you never went to court. Judges want nothing more than to help
people transition and move forward.
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Unless you have that team and the right people in place — divorce
is overwhelming. So
instead, get experts and people who have your best interests in
mind to provide you with the information you need to make the best
rational decision for your future.
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Educate yourself at the beginning of the process and do
your due diligence. Please
do your research and talk to professionals to support yourself as
you go through the divorce process regarding questions or things to
ask and consider your goals and what's most important to you on the
financial side.
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more you can come to an agreement with your spouse, the better and
less expensive it is. Next, try to have a conversation with your
spouse about your kids. Making the decisions with your children in
the center is how you ultimately create the most peace in the
divorce process.
Connect with
Evan Schein:
Evan Schein
is a New York City-based divorce
and family law attorney, partner, and the Head of Litigation at
Berkman Bottger Newman & Schein LLP.
During his career, he
has litigated high-conflict custody cases and complex financial
matters.
He has helped clients
find post-divorce happiness, build successful financial lives,
advocate to protect children, and fight for the rights of victims
of domestic violence.
Evan is the host of the
Schein On Podcast, where he talks about marriage, money, and
divorce.
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